The rapist is you

I remember when #MeToo exploded and (many of us) had a reality check when we understood the occasions in which we were harassed or —even— abused.

Personally, I suffered obvious harassment and attempted abuse from an unpresentable person who has accumulated dozens of accusations and formal complaints. At the time, I did not believe that I had been saved from an attempted sexual assault. I just thought that the little character in question (with an overflowing ego) felt irresistible and was brutally confused. I did not see myself as a victim or him as a victimizer.


Just as #MeToo made harassment and abuse visible, it is urgent to put media violence on the table.

Those of us on the broadcasting side have to stop normalizing gender-based violence. In most cases, without any intention and as simple cultural baggage, from the media we ceaselessly violate women again.

Instead of wasting time and the discussion between absurdities of them, them and them, we must rethink the media coverage of violence.


When, from the media, do we re-victimize women? When we spread her identity or the details of the femicide or crime, when we exhibit aspects of her private life, when we question whether she was alone or accompanied or if she consumed alcohol or drugs.

In case of debahni is a clear example of this: his identity, his activities were spread, it was questioned what he was doing or where he was going? And family issues of the victim were even published that have nothing to do with the crime being investigated.

This type of “information” generates, in certain sectors of public opinion, the erroneous view that the victim exposed himself to what happened, that he somehow sought it out. That is media violence. In the case of homicides or crimes committed against men, there is no such incessant search or public lynching of the victim.

What if, mea culpa.


A few weeks ago, in a chat with Olympia Coral Meloactivist and promoter of the Olympia Lawexplained to me how the term pornrevenge revictimizes Illegal dissemination of intimate material is not a pornvengeance, there is nothing pornographic nor was it the intention of the victim to produce audiovisual material for those purposes and, neither, is it a revenge; by naming it that way, it would seem that it is a consequence of some act of the aggrieved party. How is it that being so obvious we don’t realize it and we are using such offensive and violent terminologies?


Communicators and journalists come with burdens, prejudices and gender assessments. Training and workshops are required to understand gender-based violence in the mass media.

On the audience’s side, education and research are also required, to stop consuming publications and —above all— stop disseminating information on social networks that violates the dignity of the victims.


This year, the daily average of homicides is 73 cases per day. The annualized figure already exceeds 18 thousand cases. This impacts more than 1.5% of GDP.

In the case of gender violence it is worse. Globally, 30% of women are victims of physical, sexual or psychological violence. In Mexico, it exceeds 70% of women.

In states like Zacatecas, the State of Mexico or Guanajuato almost 90% of the population lives in fear.

Could it be that we are the ones who need a peace plan? So much self-criticism!

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