"Increasing the hours of occupation is reducing the hours of worry"

Sooner or later we will all have to go through a breakup, and everyone who goes through one can be classified into two groups, those who go through it intelligently and those who don’t. This is my decalogue to be part of the first. Do not skip this Step even if you consider that you will not have to go through the evils of heartbreakbecause even if you save yourself, at some point you will have to comfort someone who is not so lucky.

Here the decalogue starting with the three prohibitions of points ten, nine and eight.

Point 10. FORBIDDEN TO REJECT AN INVITATION FROM YOUR FRIENDS. Especially during the first weeks after the breakup, impress yourself that it is forbidden not to date. If you receive a call to do whatever activity, the answer is always “Yeah».

Point 9. FORBIDDEN TO SPEND A WHOLE DAY AT HOME. Or worse, spend it in bed. Make a commitment to yourself to force yourself to leave the house at least once every day. The best way to change mood you have is changing the place where you are.

Point 8. FORBIDDEN TO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME UNOCCUPIED. The best way to get your mind stop thinking about a subject is by distracting her with others. It doesn’t matter what you do, but do.

Increasing the hours of occupation is reducing the hours of concern

Point 7. LOOK FOR SHELTERS. Sport is one of the best because of the advantages it offers for health and for redirecting your focus, but there are a thousand more. Any passion or hobby like playing an instrument, painting, gastronomy, photography or writing are magical tools to combat melancholy.

Point 6. MEET PEOPLE EVEN IF YOU DON’T WANT TO. It has nothing to do with looking for a partner. It is not the time nor are you predisposed. Do it to get your mind to stop dedicating time to only one person. Meet different peopleregardless of their gender, will distract your mind, open you up to new interactions, and speed up your recovery.

Point 5. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TWICE AS USUAL. Most of the pain you feel is not caused by the breakup, but by not sleeping, eating and drinking properly. Sleep as much as you can to make up for the lack of energy, eat enough even if you are not hungry and drink water even if you are not thirsty.

Point 4. GIVE YOURSELF THE WHIM. There are times when you should save and times when you should spend. This is the time of the latter. If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to treat yourself, this is it. Waste is not smart. Pamper yourself, yes.

Point 3. FILL YOUR LIFE. One of the smartest decisions to mitigate something you lose is to make up for it with something you gain. Sign up for classes, courses, seminars, congresses, motivational talks, associations of all kinds or trips that serve as profit to make up for your loss.

Point 2. TURN LIMITATIONS INTO POSSIBILITIES. Being with that person had advantages but also disadvantages. This is the time to focus on all the limitations that have now just become freedoms. Create a list of all the things you couldn’t do before… and do them.

Point 1. GIVE YOURSELF A SHOT OF MUSIC. Music has immense power to alter emotions, and yet few use it with the deliberate intention of altering their mood. I have a playlist of songs just for cheer up. I call the list Muy Happy Happy, which is the name of the song that I created just for that purpose. Listen to it whenever you need a high.