When love ends, the healthiest thing for both is to follow different paths to continue with their lives and their plans that they had before getting married. We know that a breaking off marriage is very difficult to face and it will take a long time to understand what really happened, because it is not easy to get out of mind all the good moments that the two have shared during the time of falling in love and courtship.
The spokesperson is Vania Vargas Clinical psychologista specialist in suicidology and relational transcendent psychotherapist, explains how we can deal with a marital breakdown and the main causes.
How to deal with a marital breakdown?
One of the key tips to deal with a marital breakdown is to avoid “unnecessary” contact with the ex-partner, that is, they possibly have property together and/or children, for which they have to maintain contact, however it is necessary to limit it to only whatever is essential.
Go at your own pace, the separation process is also a grieving process, therefore it is necessary to be self-compassionate and patient with oneself, experience the emotions in their entirety, without denying them, so little by little the mourning will calm down these emotions that grief entails, at this time you could lean on friends and family.
Take advantage of trying new situations or learning to be with yourself, discover yourself!
What are the main causes that lead to a breakup?
I would say that one of the main causes of the end of a relationship is poor communication between its members, this is very common since people have different perspectives of reality because we have experienced different things, therefore if there is no good communication, there are probably many impasses, within the dynamics of the relationship.
Another of the main causes is the lack of trust that can occur between one person or another, however that is also because each person has to deal with their own internal world.
What feelings appear in couples after a breakup?
When one has a love break, emotions such as sadness, anger, frustration, irritability, melancholy, bad mood, and even similar symptoms associated with depression may appear.
If the marriage does not give for more, what should couples do so that the relationship is not toxic?
One of the options is to go to couples therapy or individual therapy, in order to have advice for the improvement of both people. The other option would be to end the relationship “to cut your losses”.
What should be done in the face of a duel after the breakup of the marriage?
Lean on your friends, with your family, connect with yourself, take advantage of the moment to carry out new activities, learn from the previous situation and always try to improve the version of yourself.
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