My friend, the photographer Gary, came to the restaurant for a fish tiradito and, in the background, a seafood rice with creams and hot peppers. For thirst he asked for a fresh chicha morada. “María, the Colombian Shakira again causes controversy, this time because of her new song ‘Sesión 53’, in which she is in charge of crushing the great player Gerard Piqué already his chibola Clara Chia.
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The Colombian, who was in charge of conquering millions of fans with songs like ‘Pies descalzos’ or ‘Waka waka’, today makes spiteful songs -which leave her with great financial gains- due to the departure of the father of her children, who decided to leave her to go after the girl. It is the ideal wish that marriages last forever and that love never ends. But many times that does not happen.
For different reasons, a marriage can end. And it can happen to anyone, even beautiful, successful and millionaire women like Shakira. But the question is how to act in the face of a separation, especially when there are children involved. If a break hurts both parties a lot, how terrible it will be for the children, especially when they are minors. That is why parents who separate have the obligation to act with emotional maturity, so as not to harm each other and especially the little ones. Some advice from experts to best assume a separation when there are children:
- Accept the divorce. Acknowledging that the relationship has come to an end is not easy, but it is necessary. Acknowledging that you are going through a period of mourning and accepting it is the first step to looking to the future with optimism. You have to understand that pain is normal.
- Don’t walk away from everyone. Crying is helpful in relieving pain. The same is true when sharing our thoughts and feelings with others. Having contact with close people can help, but isolating yourself and seeking solitude can make the situation worse.
- Take advantage to develop yourself. Use pain to motivate yourself to grow, pursue new goals, and enjoy new activities. Take the opportunity to focus on you, because you will have more time.
- Participate in activities that you enjoy. Practicing physical exercise allows us to reduce discomfort and improve our emotional balance, as it helps to release neurochemicals related to happiness and pleasure.
- Participate in an emotional intelligence workshop. Emotional intelligence is something that can be worked on and acquired. The key components of this practice are: emotional self-awareness, emotional self-regulation, self-motivation, recognition of the emotions of others, and social skills.
- Do not rush to find a new partner. Separating from the person with whom you have lived so many moments and being happy again can take time, and although sometimes it seems that the best way to not feel alone is to be with someone, that is not true. Gary is right. I’m leaving, take care.
