Now that the children are holidays They tend to accompany us more to do the shopping of the day. Everything is fine until they see something they want and when they don’t get it, they throw their tantrums screaming, throwing themselves on the ground and even crying inconsolably. For him psychologist and psychotherapist Walter Hinojosa parents should not ignore this behavior and, rather, should correct it on the spot without yelling or hitting.
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“Dad or mom should not consent to their children’s tantrums because if they do it once, the boys will internalize it and do them again, even going as far as emotional blackmail. That is why they must devise ways to control this behavior, if they cannot alone it is worth asking for help from a specialist”warned Hinojosa.
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To do
TAKE A DEEP BREATH. When his tantrum starts, quickly ask him what he wants. Avoid pulling and yelling because you will make things worse.
GET ON THEIR LEVEL. Get down, take him by the shoulders and tell him why you can’t buy him or give him what he wants. Do it firmly, if she doesn’t understand, let her deny for a few more minutes, she will get tired and calm down on her own.
LOOK FOR A DISTRACTION. Tell him to calm down and that later you will go to the park, watch his favorite show or that you will prepare that dessert that he likes so much.
TALK WITH HIM. When the tantrum has passed, talk to him about the incident. Based on his age, explain to him why it is wrong for him to adopt that behavior.
Did you know…
Don’t take your child’s tantrums personally. He doesn’t do it because he doesn’t want you, but because he thinks he has a need.
How to calm your child’s crying?
The crying It is one of the main forms of expression for children, since through tears they try to get the attention of their parents. However, many times instead of asking them what’s wrong, what hurts them or what’s bothering them, we end up giving them a strong ‘pinch’ on the arm, pulling their ears or yelling at them (in the worst case, with insults).
The psychologist and psychotherapist Walter Hinojosa points out that these ‘methods’ do not help at all to the proper growth and development of the child; on the contrary, they make them stagnate or even regress in their learning. For your children to ‘come back to calm’, the specialist recommends the following:
♦Ask him what’s wrong. For example, you can say: ‘Luisito, does any part of your body hurt? But don’t do it loudly or abruptly. Rub their head or gently grab their shoulders as you ask the question. That will give you calm and confidence.
♦Take him out for a walk. If he doesn’t want to tell you anything and just manages to cry, tell him: ‘Pepito, let’s go to the park. Let’s have fun!’. The idea is to change the environment so that he is distracted and stops shedding so many tears. They can bring the pet.
♦Play her music. Your child must like some nursery rhymes. Always have his favorite songs on hand, even start dancing and singing so that he is encouraged to follow you and forget to cry.
♦Let your creativity fly. Use puppets or dolls to tell her to stop crying. You can look for a long stocking that you don’t use, glue some eyes on it and put it on your arm. Now he begins to say phrases like: ‘Toñito, why are you crying?’ ‘You are a very intelligent boy.’ Or something funnier like: ‘If you cry so much, you will flood the planet.’ You will see that he will laugh or at least be surprised.
CARING METHOD
You can also soothe his crying with affectionate gestures such as hugs and kisses. Also, don’t forget to tell him how important he is to you and that you also get sad when he cries.
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