The ideal of romantic love, in which someone is needed to be happy, comes from an early age and they accompany human growth to the point where reality and fiction do not match.
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In codependency, the partner thinks they can’t do anything without the other person, which leads to anxiety, stress or worry if you are not with the other It can manifest itself in that there is constant concern about where he is, in calling him every five minutes, in looking for him.
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In addition, there are three main elements of what love is and that define a relationship, which are intimacy, commitment and passion, according to Robert Sternberg –psychologist at Yale University.
“In these dimensions, intimacy is understood as a clearer knowledge between people, a closeness that is given from the different interactions and coexistence that one has in the relationship. Commitment refers to agreements where each one indicates where they want to be in the relationship. and under what terms. Finally, for Sternberg, passion is these physiological responses that can manifest, for example, with nervousness in the hands or butterflies in the stomach,” explains the psychologist.
when talking about love these behavioral and physiological responses that can be seen in different aspects can be grouped. However, an important role is played by culture, because it influences how love is conceived and from there expectations about relationships will be built.
- Think of partner relationships as support, as a matter of fairness, equality and eliminate all these elements of romantic love that imply obligation.
- Have a more caring perspective, an ethic in the relationship, where competitiveness is exchanged for cooperation and mutual support.
- Understanding the position of the other and understanding what their way of feeling loved is like can lead to mutual negotiations, agreements, in which respect is taken care of and freedom from these false expectations that without a partner you don’t have much.
