manipulative people They don’t usually have many scruples, once they detect your weak point, they will use it to manipulate you. If they achieve their end, they will make you give up your needs and values, to put their own ahead.
The psychologist Lucia Bergonzi points out that manipulators are usually insecure people, with low self-esteem, but despite this, they try to give the opposite image. Their fears and insecurities are covered up under selfish and domineering attitudes.
What are the characteristics of the manipulators?
The manipulator’s insecurity makes him use techniques to solve his problems based on active or passive aggressiveness. They tend to be selfish and have an obvious deficit in social skills that leads them to first use subtle means to get others to do what they want, and then increasingly aggressive, even going as far as violence.
Manipulators being insecure, feel uncomfortable in all kinds of relationships, whether at work, as a couple or as a friend. This leads them to be rigid, judge others and show that only they are right.
They have a low tolerance for frustration. Every time they experience situations that they consider to be frustrating, they react with rage, they become alert and attack with intolerance, destructive criticism or even physical and verbal aggressiveness if they feel threatened.
The manipulator will never have enough, he always asks and squeezes without limit, satisfies his own ego through the manipulation of his victimFeeling that you have the other at your disposal makes you feel powerful.
Use others to achieve your ends whenever possible, unless the person puts an end to that exploitation. A handler does not usually let his prey go free, but rather tries to get the most out of it by asking for ever greater sacrifices.
Why is it so much more difficult to detect psychological manipulation in the couple?
– Because the emotional bond that exists does not allow one to analyze the situation objectively.
– This type of manipulation has disastrous consequences because it not only wears out the relationship but also often causes a deep lack of trust in the victim.
– The emotional manipulator in the couple tends to despise the feelings, opinions, desires and needs of the other, to put or impose their own.
– As a result, it is common for the victim to experience frustration, resentment, and deep dissatisfaction with the relationship.
– Many times, in the early stages of the relationship, the manipulator makes excessive displays of attention and affection with the aim of making the relationship progress faster.
– With this ability, the manipulator creates a kind of emotional vertigo in his victim who prevents him from thinking. He pushes her to make decisions that she doesn’t feel comfortable enough with.
– When a person puts a brake on him, the manipulator will reproach him for his lack of commitment and delivery in the relationship.
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