A couple of weeks ago we were all shocked by the news of the separation of the Peruvian writer Mario Vargas Llosa (86) and the Spanish socialite Isabel Preysler (71) after an eight-year romance. Not even the best sorcerers could have guessed it. Which leads us to wonder, How difficult is it to overcome a love breakup at this age? Does it hurt more than when you are young? What comes after this?
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Although at the beginning many have railed against the relationship of the Nobel Prize for Literature and the ex of Julio Iglesias, as they argued that it was quite unfair behavior for the other part of the story (Patricia Llosa, ex-wife of the writer), a separation affects anyone.
In the third age, emotions are not lived like when you are a teenager or an adult, when we believe that we have many opportunities behind the door. At that age everything is different. And, of course, the situations feel more on the surface, especially if we talk about sentimental separations.
The psychologist Louis Romero details how older adults can overcome a love breakup:
What causes the separation of an elderly couple who have been together for many years?
There are so many factors. Many people believe that because they are older adults and have been together for 50 years, they are not going to separate. They are totally wrong. There is no age for the couple to break sticks and decide to break up. There may be character incompatibility, lack of commitment, lack of sexual life, dissatisfaction, misunderstanding.
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Do you experience breakups in old age as in youth?
It really depends on the personality of each person, but it is normal for older adults to feel that it was their last chance to live a romance. In those moments the family must be there to contain them.
What should they do?
The first thing is to live this stage of ‘mourning’ (by separation). Understand what they feel, don’t judge themselves. Accept that they are suffering and they will be like this for a while, but then it will pass. Once the wounds have healed, they have to go back to work on themselves. Do things that make you happy, spend time with your family.
What advice would you give to people who are going through a similar situation?
Before making any decision or opening new doors, close the past well. There will also be other people who want to stay alone and it is valid. The most important thing is that they heal their emotional wounds (even if they say no, any separation brings pain) and then restructure their lives.
You can find Dr. Luis Romero on Instagram as: @psicologo.luisromero
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