Encourages women to masturbate: – It’s a bit like working out and eating vegetables

Doctor Ellen Støkken Dahl is one of the authors of the books “The joy with the vagina” and “The new joy with the vagina”.

She points out that masturbation and orgasms are simply healthy.

– It’s a bit like working out and eating vegetables, it’s good preventive medicine at group level, she says and continues:

– When you have an orgasm and when you focus on your own pleasure and spend time on it, you will achieve better sleep, a better self-image and you will release substances in the body that have a general positive effect, endorphins and oxytocin. So these are important processes and important preventive health – for women and for men, she says.

– Created to enjoy

Iselin Guttormsen (36) is a sexologist, influencer and host of the “G-point” podcast.

Guttormsen believes that, historically, there have always been several taboos related to women’s abdomens and women’s pleasure.

– It is a paradox when we know that we have such a wonderful organ as the clitoris, which is, in a way, only created for enjoyment. It has no function in reproduction. So I don’t know, maybe it has been a bit threatening then, for men throughout the ages, that we have such a powerful pleasure tool between our legs?, she tells Good Morning Norway.

She further refers back to Sigmund Freud and that he wrote about the vaginal and clitoral orgasm:

– The fact that the vaginal orgasm belonged to the modern woman, while the clitoral was a little more like that for young girls, she says and elaborates:

– So it is clear that if you as a woman had to resort to stimulating the clitoris to achieve orgasm, you were not a mature enough woman. At the same time, we know that between 80 and 90 percent of all women need stimulation of the clitoris to achieve orgasm. It is clear that then there will be a lot of shame, says the sexologist.

Organizes parties for women

One of the champions around this topic is Sofia Su – who is the founder of the company “Juicebox”.

– It is a community for cis women, trans women and non-binary, to create a safer society where we are more passionate and we cultivate it with self-love, loving our bodies – regardless of size, color and age, says she.

She organizes events and believes that it is about exploring one’s own sexuality in a safe environment.

– There are events where we only talk about sex and female pleasure. How we “deal” with sexual trauma, because a lot of people have that. We have more “mingle events”, to just get in touch with open and like-minded people. It could be going to the sauna or it could be dancing topless to techno, she continues.

She also organizes parties, where there is more physical contact:

– Then there are my classic parties where we rent a house, eat a four-course dinner and get in touch with the body. Because that’s what it’s really about – getting in touch with our sensuality, with breathing, touch and massage.

– What are you left with then?

– There is a lot of diversity. Often we become uncomfortable or insecure when we feel that we have to fit into something, if we have to achieve something, or if the goal is sex. “Am I allowed to have sex at my sex parties? No, no, no, of course not,” says the entrepreneur and elaborates:

– We talk a lot about consent and setting boundaries. And “tune in” to “what do you really want?” So creating security in the room gives you the freedom to explore and be yourself.

She says that many people come there to make friends or just to watch and be inspired.

– And a lot of people come with a confidence boost afterwards, because you don’t have to fit into a box. You can really be yourself.

– We think it’s so embarrassing

The sexologist particularly emphasizes communication as the key in a relationship, also when it comes to sex life.

– I think especially in heterosexual couples, you take things a bit for granted. We think we know where each other’s boundaries are and what the other wants and we communicate very little, says the 36-year-old.

She points out that we live in a society where there is a lot of sex on all channels, all the time.

– We are bombarded with sex wherever we turn, through popular culture, through music videos, social media and not least porn. So we really talk very little about it, she says and continues:

– We think it’s so embarrassing, because sex is not the way we see it in films and porn. And the body is not the way it is often portrayed through social media and so on and then there are things that are embarrassing to talk about. So we forget to communicate, even so do we sex – we do what we see and what we are taught to do, and then we forget to be present here in the present.

Many have never experienced orgasm

Støkken Dahl believes it is important to talk more about masturbation and she encourages women to masturbate.

– In a relationship, you have sex with a partner, but is it still important to masturbate on your own?

– Absolutely, and it’s for training. Women who have never achieved orgasm will during fairly short training programs, with specific exercises to manage it. Five to seven weeks of masturbation training, and up to 90 percent of women who have never had an orgasm before will be able to do it alone and with a partner, says the doctor.

The doctor also calls for us to use simpler words, and has therefore come up with some colorful expressions:

– For men, there has long been a simple, playful language associated with masturbation. Shake, a simple word and you have many nonsense words, you can “pull the salmon”, you can “polish the flagpole” or you can “play with the magic wand”. It’s easy to create a light atmosphere around it.

When it comes to women, there are more clinical words, she believes:

– Whereas for girls it has long been masturbation, masturbation. It sounds clinical and heavy. Now we have new words: “clitre”, “troll pea”, things that revolve around the clitoris.

For information: Both the podcast “G-punktet” and Iselin Guttormsen have commercial collaborations with Kondomeriet.